Can We Empower Women Without Talking About Real Female Sex & Sexuality?

  • September 30, 2010

I would think that the Clinton Global Initiative who’s mission is to focus people, NGO’s, and governments on confronting the world’s most pressing problems, would at least be open to global discussions about sex. Unfortunately, we’re not there yet.

That being said, last week the Clinton Global Initiative did put the global empowerment of women and girls as one of the four

“action areas” at this years CGI conference in New York, which is a step in the right direction. The intention is that by bringing international focus to women and girls, CGI can stimulate business innovation and investment dollars, as well as encourage organizations to spur economic progress, expand markets, and improve health and education for women around the globe.

“Empowering women,” Clinton said, “is central to what the world has to do in the 21st century. ”

The issue is however, that we can’t truly talk about empowering women without also talking about empowering female sexuality. So many of the problems and dangers that women face have to do with our massively outdated, superstitious beliefs about women and female sexuality.

From yoga class – where menstruating women are admonished to not do headstands lest the dirty blood flow up instead of out – to the seemingly innocuous yet persistent fables like Adam and Eve. These all have devastating consequences on how we feel about women and girls. In Adam and Eve, the snake is the trickster, but the woman is to blame for man not following God’s rule and tempting him to knowledge.

A simple but powerful call to hate and self-loathing.

Can we truly empower women without talking clearly, openly, and directly about real female sex and sexuality?

In essence it is our archaic, ignorant, yet persistent notions that continue to keep women and girls under veil, undervalued, underpaid, and sexually repressed. And though we believe we have “come so far” in America, in general, we are not yet capable of having the simplest discussions about female sexuality with our kids.

One friend’s mom told her that “sex is dirty – and that’s all you need to know.”

As I wrote last week, though nearly 100 % of all American children are “receiving” sex education, we fail to verify if that education is either accurate or effective. It’s like saying, ” I spelled the word S-E-X in class, so therefore we educated kids about sex.”

Worldwide, Clinton asserted, women and girls have made some gains, but serious problems persist. Violence against women and girls, inadequate or more expensive health care for women, forced marriages, unabated sex trafficking, and the inability to access funding for business opportunities and education are a few of the persistent problems facing women around the world.

I assert that none of this will change without demystifying and empowering female sexuality. As long as we continue to believe that pussy is bad, that women are to be owned and constantly controlled – and that paternal certainty is to be protected at all cost – women will continue to live in the dark ages in America and around the globe.

It’s time to free our minds, and liberate vaginas around the world! Free your pussy, free your mind.