The Optimized Mind™

OM026 If Everybody is Fucked Up Then Maybe Fucked Up Isn’t A Thing

In this episode of The Optimized Mind – I ask a simple question: if, you know, “everybody’s fucked up” – which is the trite wisdom of religion and spirituality – then maybe fucked up isn’t actually a thing.

In this first episode of season two of The Optimized Mind, I get curious about this idea. I get tired of cartoon explanations and justifications for shitty behaviors.

Honestly, I’m not interested in calling you on “your shit.” I don’t think there is such a thing. The reference point of some idyllic life where we are “fully present” and beyond our shit – this is just the mythical land of Oz.

It’s nothing. Looking for somebody who supposedly isn’t fucked up is ridiculous. Like trying to find the Yetti. Or the Loch Ness Monster.  These are not actual things. So if everybody is fucked up… then fucked up is normal, which means it isn’t fucked up at all… I’ll let you do the math on this one…

Enjoy the show. Please feel free to reach out if you have suggestions for future shows.


OM024 The Power of Positive Thinking and Understanding The Nonsensical World Of President Trump







President Trump Has Not Lost His Mind. He Never Had One.

How cults and religions influence a presidency.

In this episode, I offer my listeners a frame in which to understand the seeming

nonsense that is and will be the Presidency of Donald Trump. If you don’t understand

this simple concept, you will never be able to figure out what our president will do next.

But, if you do understand this, a lot more things will make sense.

Welcome to the amalgamation of New Age Religion and State.

Below is the now President Trump and Ivana with Norman Vincent Peale and his wife.

OM023 The World According To Fuck

The World According To Fuck


In my opinion – there’s a load of spiritual

bait out there that captures our attention.

It’s a waste of our time.

Because, if you ask the incorrect question,

it’s nearly impossible to arrive at the right answer.

This is my short treatise on the world according to FUCK.

OM022 Why Do People Have Affairs

Why Do People Have Affairs?










In this episode, Lawrence Lanoff and Karina Velasco have some straight talk about

the myth of cheating.

It’s a powerful episode that will help you organize your mind

regarding how you think about love and relationships.

Since Karina Mentioned it in the show, I’m also

including a LINK to my sexual breathing youtube video.

I hope this episode changes your mind a bit – regardless of what

you believe.

OM021 How Osama Bin Laden Voted For Donald Trump From His Grave

osama bin laden votes for president-trump

How Bin Laden Voted Trump From The Grave.

Donald Trump Tapped into Our Deep Sense of Feeling Lost, Hopeless, Fearful & Uncertain

So did Osama Bin Laden.

In this edgy episode, I invite you to think differently about how we are where we are…

and how something as simple as a tiny little conspiracy can

be a slippery slope towards feeling completely helpless, angry, isolated and xenophobic.

Though I refer to the “white guy” in this episode, it’s really more of a metaphor of

entitled, close minded thinking.

I think it’s an amazing episode personally, and I invite you to come on a difficult journey.

It will probably piss you off… but you are worth pissing off…

In reality, I hope this episode makes you think a bit differently and step out of the games

into a clear frame of reference.

Also, I am including a link to the original blog that this podcast is based on.

OM020 Guest Danny O’Neill – The Election Cycle

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OM020 Guest Danny O’Neill – The Election Cycle

In this episode I speak with sex positive pundit, entrepreneur and social activist, Danny O’Neill.

My intention in this episode is to give the younger generation a perspective on this

crazy election cycle.  I believe there is hope and I wanted to share that hope in

a broader social perspective – all the way back to the 1960’s.

I am an optimist and I believe in a better future… to a point.

Are we at that point?

That’s the point of my having Danny on the show.


OM019 Guest Susan Bratton The Sexually Optimized Mind and Pussy Power

OM019 Guest Susan Bratton The Sexually Optimized Mind








This incredible episode is about pussy power.

How to separate sex from sexual pleasure.
The power of yoni pleasure.
The power of a happy pussy.
Understanding sex energy
Discovering the bullseye touch technique..
What is the key to female orgasm?
The Power of the smiling cock and the smiling pussy.
Learning to close the want gap.
This conversation is chock full of amazing gems for you…
Giving your desires full permission and understanding
about what’s even possible.
Find out more about Susan Bratton’s work at www.personallifemedia.com –
there are thousands of free articles and beautiful information
to help you on your journey.




My friend and co-worker Cheryl Good talks about her sexual/spiritual evolution and her journey to a sexually empowered life. In this episode, we explore:

vulnerability as a human currency
the sweetness of power
the spiritual secret of relaxing your ass
we ask the big question: what do you want
we explore living in flow state and breath as a way into release
the secret of being kind to ourselves
the reality of knowing that you will never not be triggered…
sex as the bonding chemical
the power of your internal yes or no and know
and a lot more.
You can find out more about Cheryl’s offerings at

OM017 – The 4 Boxes for Women

whatsreallygoingonThe 4 Boxes for Women

The 4 Boxes for Women is a concept that came to me as I’ve been digesting what it is like to be a female bodied human in 2016. It’s as complicated as ever. In some ways, we are more open as a society. Sex and sexual pressure is everywhere. But we don’t want our wives, sisters, girlfriends and daughters to fall prey to social-sexual pressure. “Our women” (whatever the specific group is) should be, and are, different.

And all  our mythologies about women and our down right hatred of women still apply for women around the world. Women are expected to sacrifice. Women are expected to submit. If a woman is to loud, she’s “a bitch” or “bossy.”

The perfect number of sex partners for a woman is 3. Not too many, not too few. 3. And then there’s the slut line, quickly followed by the whore line. The boxes are distinctions that I have witnessed in my coaching practice. It’s universal and devastating to our culture.

These boxes for women are holding our culture back in shame, guilt and sexual negativity and “unnaturalness.” I have heard so many female bodied friends and students call themselves “dirty” and “broken.”

For me, it’s a nightmare. That is what this podcast is all about.

OM016 The Authenticity Delusion

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Photo by: Peter Lindbergh

The Authenticity Delusion

The Authentic self is a modern day delusion, a twisted, shame and blame based reality for a supposedly conscious new world.

The delusion of authenticity comes from philosophy. According to Rousseau, authenticity is derived from the natural self whereas inauthenticity is a result of external influences. The existential philosopher, Martin Heidegger 1889 to 1976 said that authenticity is choosing the nature of one’s own existence and identity.

Basically, Heidegger’s physical bullshit is really the root of the problem. Those ideas were stolen by Werner Erhard. He was one of the first people who stole and popularized this delusion of authenticity, as if authenticity was an actual thing. Something to be achieved. This idea of authenticity is a standard game one struggle of this over that.

Authenticity is killing us as a culture, strangling us to death in minutia and impossible tasks. In this episode I present the rosetta stone of understanding authenticity. After this episode, you will be armed. So the buck stops here.