The 4 Boxes for Women
The 4 Boxes for Women is a concept that came to me as I’ve been digesting what it is like to be a female bodied human in 2016. It’s as complicated as ever. In some ways, we are more open as a society. Sex and sexual pressure is everywhere. But we don’t want our wives, sisters, girlfriends and daughters to fall prey to social-sexual pressure. “Our women” (whatever the specific group is) should be, and are, different.
And all our mythologies about women and our down right hatred of women still apply for women around the world. Women are expected to sacrifice. Women are expected to submit. If a woman is to loud, she’s “a bitch” or “bossy.”
The perfect number of sex partners for a woman is 3. Not too many, not too few. 3. And then there’s the slut line, quickly followed by the whore line. The boxes are distinctions that I have witnessed in my coaching practice. It’s universal and devastating to our culture.
These boxes for women are holding our culture back in shame, guilt and sexual negativity and “unnaturalness.” I have heard so many female bodied friends and students call themselves “dirty” and “broken.”
For me, it’s a nightmare. That is what this podcast is all about.