The Psychology of Polyamory Part 2
Part 2 – On The power of beliefs…
Historically, humans have always been “unfaithful.” However, the idea of unfaithful vs faithful is a religious myth, designed to help ensure paternity. The myth of the unfaithful pressures the emotional centers of the brain, and makes us feel ashamed, guilty, afraid of our sexuality.
People claim that humans are here on earth for a variety of reasons. There are all kinds of theories as to our origins – from Adam and Eve, to an Anunnaki alien experiments, from extra-terrestrial star children, to the cycle of death and rebirth, from the idea that all life is an illusion, to the idea that the true reality is oneness.
All of these are great stories, and they are all true in this sense: They are completely made up, and they completely miss one key point. Sex.
In my mind, humans exist unquestionably for one purpose; to have sex. Sex has made us who we are today. Without sex, there is no humanity, there are no myths, no religion, no stories, no us.
The human brain is responsible for the greatest and the worst of humanity. Here is my list of the top 10 reasons why we are in a bunch of hot water as a human race.
1. The brain lacks the ability to naturally think critically.
As it turns out, our brains do not naturally know how to evaluate life critically. To the brain, no matter how outrageous the thought or belief, it’s all true – or at least possible. This is a big problem. From the brain’s perspective, the second coming of Jesus is evaluated exactly the same way as the bill that’s due at the end of the month; to the brain it’s all the same. read more
We are all going to face judgement day on May 21st 2011. Yep, finally, the world is going to end. The best part is, you and I, we have a front row seat to the greatest event in human history – the end of the world.
That’s how important we are, and that’s super exciting. I always knew I had juice. read more
I’ve been thinking lately about the need for a sexual bill of rights. A document that helps protect us from crazy despot dictators and insane religious leaders who view sex as an enemy combatant, or worse yet, a mortal sin to be demolished.
We need to cultivate a scientific, factually based view of sex, and enact sweeping reforms that protect the sex health rights of all individuals – including those who are ardently opposed to such ideas. It is truly time to mandate that science catch up to reality.
People are having lots and lots of sex. read more
At some point, we will profoundly alter our brains regarding our experience of sexuality.
Currently we are living in the dark ages concerning sex. We continue to desperately hold ancient religious and biblical beliefs as our sexual guideposts.
However, whether it’s in the next 100 years or 1,000 years,
A friend just died of cervical cancer at age 37 because she never went for an annual pelvic exam.
Granted, pelvic exams are no fun, but then there is the additional shame factor, that icky feeling in the pit of the stomach when something dirty or “bad” is happening to us.
When we’re told by the doctor to open our mouths, and stick out our tongues, it’s no problem. There is little morality and shame associated with the mouth. However, If we are told open our legs and stick out our clits, well for many of us, that’s a completely different story.
You and I did not come from monogamous ancestry. We came from folks who enjoyed fucking – a lot. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be here.
It’s really simple to understand. The monogamous couple, who slept only with one another, who only had children with one another – and lived together in monogamous bliss – simply didn’t survive. One virus, one cheeta attack, one flood, one cold snap could wipe out the entire family. End of that story. End of lineage. Where as, the ancestors who inadvertently diversified their gene pool by having sex with lots of different people, in different locations, over their entire lifetime – ensured the survival of their lineage. read more